The whole kerfuffle about Paladino’s comments is one I never really felt like commenting on, but I found myself listening to Lynn Samuels on Sirius Left (if you have the station, check her out; she’s probably the leftiest liberal on air and is good to get angry at) today when an old woman called and felt bad because her granddaughter had just had twins, and she found herself praying that one of them didn’t turn out gay.
Truthfully, I couldn’t say I disagreed with her.
Now, I will never, ever judge another human being over something as miniscule as sexuality. Hell I don’t even like it when sexuality is used as a noun because it implies that their identity is wrapped up in what they fuck. But I would imagine that, as a parent, one only wants what’s best for their kids and let’s face it: the world isn’t a kind place to the rainbow-colored citizens.
So it’s less a situation of hoping for one sexuality over another, and more a case of hoping that one’s child isn’t saddled with anything that will make their lives more difficult. It’s the biggest reason I’ll never buy the claim that sexuality is a choice: there’s no good reason to pick homosexuality over heterosexuality. You open yourself up to discrimination, possible hate crimes, not to mention a much reduced selection of partners. I, for one, would really hope that my potential offspring don’t have to face that kind of adversity.
Which isn’t to say that if life took a turn and that’s how they turn out, I would in any way want them to change. Far from it. I personally wouldn’t bat an eye. Would love to meet their partners and help plan the eventually-legal wedding. My only concern would be how the rest of the world treats ’em.
Of course, I also really don’t like children, so chances are this is a moot point for me, but whatever. What do you guys think? Am I off-base?